Self-Dare #8: Be Present

The best thing you can do for yourself
is be patient and gentle with yourself.


Where you are right now is an important part of your journey.

“How I feel in this moment is more important
than how I feel as compared to my past or future self.”
– Shannon Kaiser 

Focus on feeling good. When you take care of yourself
on the inside, that radiates to the outside.

Taking care of you is not just about what you do. It is about what you think and say to yourself. The more we compare ourselves to others and ourselves, the harder it is to be happy. If you find yourself falling into comparison, these simple steps can help:

1. Evaluate your present based on what’s happening inside you.

Start by being kind to yourself. Accept that where you are is where you are supposed to be. Until you learn the lessons of your present state, you will not be ready to evolve.

2. Celebrate your gifts.

There is only one you. Your gifts and talents are uniquely your own.

Don’t let others stop you from shining your light. Since there is only one you in the world, you can’t compare yourself to anyone else. No one can be a better you than you.

3. Look for inspiration.

When you find yourself comparing yourself to others or another version of you, instead of feeling less than or not good enough, simply look for inspiration in that moment.

The reason you feel jealous MAY be that you’re being confronted with an element of someone else’s life that you haven’t yet managed to optimize in your own life. When this occurs, simply repeat the mantra: 

“This is on its way to me,”
and you will align with your authentic self.

4GGL thanks Mind – Body – Green for this advice. 


Shannon Kaiser’s the founder of, an award-winning self-help and personal development website. She’s an author, international life coach, teacher, and inspirational speaker who left her job in advertising several years ago to follow her heart and become a writer.

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